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Minding your Ps & Qs

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Three words which I use most often are Sorry, Please & Thank you. I say it to everyone – be it my family, my friends, colleagues, clerks or any random person. I don’t think it makes me smaller than the other person or a pushover.
 
 
I say thank you to the office boy when he gives me coffee or to my colleague when he lends me a pen or to my husband when he prepares a lovely dinner or my mother when she gives me a gift. It surprises quite a few people when I say thank you to someone for having done their job – whether the job is serving me with coffee or selling me a pack of biscuits from his grocery shop or whether it is running to get me the correct size of the clothing that I am trying on. 
 
 
I say sorry when I  mistakenly stamp someone’s foot in the bus or a crowded room  or when I hurt someone.
 
 
I say please when I ask for anything from anyone, be it my husband or the clerk.
 
 
A smile and a word go a long way – whether it is the sales person altering your outfit & giving it to you the same day for the party or when you request the court master to adjust a date. I don’t believe in smiling and talking politely only when I need something or when the boss is around. I am of the belief that practising common courtesy with family, friends, co-workers or any random person is a way of life. I also believe that it reflects very negatively when a person does not practice it. Maybe I am old-fashioned, but if I have given someone a time and know that I am going to be late, I will call and apologise for the same. If smeone takes me out for a meal, I will say thank you. Even if I know the person really well, I will still say  please, sorry & thank you.

 
Sadly, not many practice basic courtesy today. I see parents not teaching their kids any manners saying they will learn it later. Later? When later? I see kids in whose dictionaries, sorry & thank you does not even exist. 
 
 
People tell me I am a pushover since I use these words freely. I beg to differ. People who know me will be the first to state that whatever else I maybe, a pushover is the last thing that I am. If someone takes me for granted because I use sorry & thank you, then that person is very much mistaken. For me it is a way of life & speech.
 
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Written by SupMM

June 11, 2009 at 12:54 pm

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  1. thats awesome gurl!!there r so few ppl who use these words these days.And those who think tht u r a pushover are simply jealous of tht fact tht they cant use these words as freely as u do! 🙂 Cheers babe.

    Ria

    June 11, 2009 at 4:54 pm

  2. I use please and thank you a lot. But not sorry. I only say sorry when i really really mean it and not necesarily when i've done something i should not have.

    But yes, the other version of sorry….. the kind you say when you bump into someone accidently or knock something down…I am quick on those sorries too. It does'nt make one a puch over but It does deduce the value of the word. sorry that is..not please, thank you.

    Just call me 'A'

    June 12, 2009 at 4:12 am

  3. Great reminder to many Im sure 🙂

    alot of ppl lack good manners, etiquette and general courtesy these days. its very imp to use these words and mean em too. Being polite and respectful towards others is a must.

    Lovely post SMM!

    Keshi.

    Keshi

    June 12, 2009 at 7:17 am

  4. hmm I had a similar post some time back.. your right, saying please and thank you now, means your a pushover.. being rude is the new cool.. gosh I wish i was back in the 1800's

    Anu

    June 12, 2009 at 7:29 pm

  5. I thought it was such a 'convent' thing and that that's where I got it from. Did you too?

    D

    June 13, 2009 at 1:09 pm

  6. This should be sent as an SMS or posted on social networking sites if you want the kids of today to at least notice it.

    Good one.I concur and I practice what you preach.

    \m/

    P.S. I sure as hell ain't no pushover either! 🙂

    DPhatsez

    June 14, 2009 at 1:59 am

  7. Loved that, SMM. I do the same, and I totally respect people who do follow basic courtesy to everybody!

    writerzblock

    June 15, 2009 at 6:55 pm

  8. @Ria

    Thanks Ria…Cheers to you too 🙂

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 2:43 pm

  9. @ 'A'

    I say sorry only when I mean it – I don't use it as a superfluous word, whther I have accidently bumped someone or whether I have hurt someone's feelings. I am free with it, but I never use when I don't mean it – like you said, it reduces the value

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 2:50 pm

  10. @ Keshi

    Thanks so much sweetie.I do hope it makes a difference Kesh. Today's kids lack the basic etiqquetee, actually why kids, alot of ppl our age lack the basic manners. They think it's cool & its attitude.

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 2:52 pm

  11. @ Anu

    I remember reading your post on lack of manners in the workspace. It's so difficult to work with such ppl.

    You said it so well – rude is the new cool.They think being rude is showing attitude. Sad they don't even knw what attitude is.

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 2:55 pm

  12. 'D'

    Possibly. I started my schooling in a convent – its had a great influence on my English, my handwriting and I guess my etiquette too 🙂

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 2:57 pm

  13. "DPhatsez'

    Hey welcome to my blog and thanks for commenting.

    Maybe I should put this up as a note on FB, then it will attract some mroe attention. Thanks so much for the compliment that it should be sent out as an sms:)

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 2:59 pm

  14. @ Pallavi

    Thanks so much. I think it is easy to get along with ppl who practiose basic coutesy. Its an instant black mark against someone who does not.

    SMM

    June 16, 2009 at 3:04 pm

  15. ** alot of ppl our age lack the basic manners. They think it's cool & its attitude.

    ur right abt that!

    And NO it aint cool, it actually sucks. LOL!

    Keshi.

    Keshi

    June 17, 2009 at 5:05 am

  16. I agree with D.it seems a convent school affliction.How else would you explain a boor like me using such words 🙂
    But yes ,many a time,politeness is mistaken for weakness.

    lostonthestreet

    June 18, 2009 at 3:31 am

  17. I agree with D.it seems a convent school affliction.How else would you explain a boor like me using such words 🙂
    But yes ,many a time,politeness is mistaken for weakness.

    lostonthestreet

    June 18, 2009 at 3:31 am

  18. a way of life and speech and thats exactly how it shud be!!iam totally for good manners and courtesy…hell,i even say sorry when someone else stamps my toes or accidently bumps into me!!lol

    churningthewordmill

    June 20, 2009 at 4:28 pm

  19. @ Keshi

    And we have o bear with those poor misguided sould all trying to be COOL 😛

    SMM

    June 23, 2009 at 7:39 am

  20. @ Lostie

    Not only is politeness mistaken for weakness, it also means that you get mistaken for being a pushover leaving the other person totally bewildered and shocked hat you not what you appear to be and you end up being calle d'double-faced' too :p

    All because your polite but not a pushover 😛

    SMM

    June 23, 2009 at 7:41 am

  21. @ Mandira

    You and me seem to sail in the same boat…though I don't apologise when someone stamps my foot. If that person does not apologise I glare at them till they do 😛

    SMM

    June 23, 2009 at 7:42 am

  22. finally some one talked like me !! I agree with all that you write here and i too proud myself for sayng these three words to anyone who deserves them ! thanks for writing this 🙂

    lostmermaid

    July 9, 2009 at 9:15 am


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